I just read what someone wrote about handicapped folks, and how insulted the person seemed to be when someone offered assistance. Wow! True, I wasn't there, but as an adult who grew up with a mother who had polio, I agree that my mother was quite capable in caring for herself. Even at an old age, she rode around in her electric wheelchair, being quite an independent woman even late in her life. That being said, she was more than willing to accept assistance when needed. I liked to refer to her as being handi-capable rather than being handicapped. You seem to be rather upset about someone trying to come to your aid. Be happy there are still good hearted, considerate people left in the world, and be gracious when either accepting or declining someone's well-meaning act of kindness.